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The Relationship Experience for Couples


The Relationship Experience is all about communication and human behavior in love relationships:

  • You will firstly learn about yourself, your values and your high value area. Essentially what's truly important to you.
  • And then learn about each other and your unique relationship by sharing and exploring how this interrelates for the two of you.
  • You will see where you are alike and where you differ.
  • How your differences actually make you a team.
  • You will get insights into what makes a marriage, what constitutes a healthy relationship and incredible new insights into human behavior in love relationships.
  • You will learn both of your Love Languages and practice speaking to each other in the appropriate language.
  • You will learn both of your Apology Languages and practice apologizing in the appropriate language.
  • You will learn life skills that are fully applicable in ALL your relationships.
  • You will share your likes and dislikes of self to each other.
  • Then share what you love and hate about each other (and yes, there are both in every healthy relationship).
  • Using the Demartini Method, we will reframe the things that challenge you about your partner (and vice versa) which will improve the chances of not allowing them to derail your marriage.

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What people are saying about The Relationship Experience:

"I loved the value system and where we as couples fit and as hard as it was to accept, it certainly helped realize that we have different value systems and that we are together to balance it out. I also enjoyed the exercise to show that if we both have same value priority how that will not work. I found it awesome to find where the kids are and how we always want to change them and think like us as parents and this experience showed me that my bottom value is my son's highest value and the balance he gives the family. I found the experience very valuable in dealing and understanding my partner and how we work together. It's not always easy to see why we argue but after the experience I now can see it clearly and that it's ok. I look forward to the Demartini work to shift some thoughts to complete the process. The value system also was a huge help in placing our children in their priority value system and how that balances us as parents. Thanks for your wisdom and directness and it's a pleasure having you as a facilitator. I highly recommend every couple and every parent to do this process as it will provide invaluable insight in how to deal and accept each other and your kids, and how you have chosen each other to balance your relationship and family."

"Doing this course has created a connection, and understanding of self and my husband that I had no idea I could discover after such a long time of knowing him, in such a short few hours. It opened our hearts and our communication channels. I feel a balance to my life and an acceptance of myself and my husband. I feel more comfortable expressing to him than I have in a long time, and it's truly reviving our soul's desires."

Dear Stephen
Thanks again for last night - we are gaining such value from what we have learnt so far (and having some heated dinner table debates!)

"What I loved:
1. Learning to speak to my wife in a way that she acknowledges what I am saying and the meaning of what I am saying.
2. Learning what works for both of us and how the other person's skill is not a difference but an aid to my strengths if seen and used in the correct way.
3. Finding a way to save my relationship with my wife.
Thank you Stephen for you willingness to give us your time and expertise in a manner that made Sarah and myself comfortable and open to sharing with each other.
I have had my eyes opened as to how to start to build the foundations of a stronger relationship with Sarah and I thank you for providing me with the tool to start on this journey.
I am looking forward to our next session"
Kind regards, Gareth

What I loved:
I loved finding out that the things that I dislike most about ............. are the things that I own within myself. That enabled me to really drop the emotional charge and let go of them, essentially really lightening my mind. I loved finding out how to deal with these sort of issues in a healthy way. I feel it really helped me connect better not only with Petro but more importantly myself, helping me to own both the good and bad.
I would encourage everyone to do this course, part of growing and evolving, includes a large deal of introspection. And what better way to have an honest look inside and take ownership of who we are. It's a powerful moment when you realize that everything you dislike about others, is something you yourself do. But it's easy to overlook our own behaviours and point fingers at everyone else. When the truth is simpler, own that trait, perspective, attitude or whatever and watch it disappear or at the very least diminish in its charge. I wish I had done this years ago, thank you so much.
Iain Knox

Dear Stephen
Once again thank you so much for the amazing ceremony that you did for Mladen and I. I can't tell you how many of our friends and family came up to us afterwards to tell us how special and unique it was. We enjoyed the relationship experience so much too, it was so much fun learning even more about each other before our wedding, so thank you so much for taking us through it. You really made us feel comfortable to share and to be open with each other.
Antoinette and Mladen


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